Mrs. Marple, yes, I know that you are absolutely right, and again am thankful for you & your insight. Who am I to think I can play with such a dangerous man? And, of course you did not offend me, sometimes I need a swift kick in the butt to open my eyes just a little bit wider. The thing is, I did help him get money from here to there, but it was his money, and at one point I had the cash in my hand, and if I would have known what I know now I would have run with it. But, yes, my heart is still tender & broken, & I will take your advice. You are a smart woman, sorry that you went through the same crap! Keep up the great work. PT
OJAS from United States
@PT 2009-11-13, 08:47:05
such a dangerous man
Miss Marple is right. Just leave the email address IP trace etc., for others to handle! Dangerous need to be tackled by other dangerous ones! Thanks!
Magnus from Huddinge, Sweden
dating scammer armenian connection.regards.
OK ladies, since you have helped me so much I am going to post some of the red flags that I was so very blind to see, or just ignore because of my devotion to this bastard. Right after we started talking on the dating sight he asked me to delete my profile there, not talk to other men, so that we could 'concentrate' on each other. When I told him I was not sure how, he asked for my password so he could do it for me, delete my profile. I told him no, I would figure it out myself. That was the first sign of his controling personality. We would email, but he would never tell me anything important in an email, one that I could save, only on instant msgs would he ask me for things. And when we IM each other he always was out, then in, then out. Never wanted to talk on the phone, ever, always had an excuse. Lost his phone while in Nigeria, new phone #, hmmmm. Always avoided questions he didn't want to answer by telling me how much he loved me, missed me, etc... You all know the drill. Got VERY angry when I couldn't send him money, a different person all together, one I had never seen. Then, a few days later back to his old self. Told me someone stole money out of his account, but no details when I felt sorry & asked what happened. Always changing the subject when I asked too many questions, which I often do :) So, if this helps one person it will make it all worth while. Love ya guys...PT
Miss Marple from Sweden
Thank you for youre efforts in this matter..
You have nothing to be ashame for..do you hear me!!??
I know that denial is a part of youre own process..we dont
judge you here..and i know that you are suffering a great
This scammer seems to be an very ugly one...to controll
the victim is a part of the scamming..they are real psycopaths
And the red flags is not easy to see always..i mean you could
not psossibly imagine that you are going to meet an scammer
online...we are only humans....people can talk for ages about
redflags here and there..but you must remeber what information
the victim is also susceptible for..its an very psychological thing also..
The scammer use offen the anger as an method towards victims
because the scammer saw that it was not easy to convince you totally,
so thatsfor ,he starts to pretending to be angry so you feeling guilty..
and under the same time he is saying that he loves you...he gives the signal
to you that, when he is angry he just loves you..do you understand???
This avoiding queations is classic..because they use templates..
many times the scammers dont read the mails at all ..infact my scammer
begun to read my mails after the money question..and after that the mails
got shorter and with bad grammar also...and he could dissapear also several
This loosing laptops and cellphones is classic also..there must be a mountain
with laptops and cellphones in africa..(LOL).Yes the signs where there..but it doesnt
help to think about it..i dont know if you could have done it in another way either..
but its helpfull to others of course to inform the society with...
PT can i ask you for how long has this going on?? Do you have someone
that you can talk to in youre hometown?? It is very ipmortant that you
cut OFF Now with this scammer..im very serious now..and worried also..
because NO ONE deserves to be treated like this!!!!
the scammer has abused you totally and treats you like shit..
dont take this anymore..please...!!!
we will be here for you at delphi...and you stay safe !!!
and be strong!!
All regards //Miss Marple //
Thank you again Miss Marples, for keeping me strong. He did text me, wondering why I hadn't emailed him, if it was because I had asked for current pics, & that is when he started the game of ignoring me. Said he had the pics but hadn't gotten to them yet, & was very sad that I have chose not to send him emails like i used to a million times a day. OMG, I guess I was obssessed. That was in a text, thinking he is afraid I know something & doesn't want to email me, since there could be proof against him somehow there. Hey, I have an idea, lets go up to that mountain, the one with all the cell phones & computers, tell them we will bring their money, then tie them all up naked & steal their computers, cells, and sell them to make money for all the girls that got ripped off! We can take your friends airplain, make a trip out of it! lol I know I am a dork, but just trying to stay on the lighter side of it all. PT
Ooops, you asked me a question. I first met him on the dating line mid August or so. And my story goes as the first one I read where I saw his name & cried as I haven't cried in a long time. Lives in Florida, wife & dtr killed 5 yrs ago in car accident, son living with grandma in Africa cuz he couldn't bear to live in the house in Florida after his mom & sis died. Sweet talked me to death, over & over. Retired construction engeneer, 45, yada yada yada. Son gets very ill, emergency trip to Nigeria, and then the fun begins.Needs emergency $100, never mentioned what it was for, even when asked. I text him back with 'sorry, you are asking the wrong girl for money'...needless to say he didn't like that answer, and got mad at me. I explained you can't get blood out of a turnip, I don't have it to give! Still didn't like that answer. It's a wonder he still loved me...lol that was a joke. So ask me anything, as you can see I am ready to share. And I have friends to talk to here, but they don't understand like you girls do. PT
wanwan from Japan
Thank you for your efforts.
You have done a good job in Delphi.
By the way how is your conditions ?
If you are not in good conditions like agent86,
please take a good rest,an enough fresh salad,fruits,
and don't do a hard work on Delphi.
I wish you a getting recovery .
Sorry, I have been reading you guy's but I had every busy week! PT looks like you are getting better, don't give up! After ready your last message, we met him at the same time! I'm the one who wrote all the information once I found out, but stupidly enough I continued talking with him until I saw you’re posting on here. I still get a text on my phone everyday, but I don't answer! He is very persistent, but I don't care anymore! But all that you have said about him so far I lived the same thing... So you’re not alone!
Thanks for youre concerning my friend!!
I can say that i have been in better conditions!!
I will rest much as possible,and hope i will
recover from this soon...
And this Ekaterina she got many faces(LOL)
scammers are like chamelon changes after theire
enviroment and needs..nice pix!!!(LOL)
and that aeroplane ..omg..if i dont die in this
illness i die of laughter..(LOL)
Miss Marple is not to old for anything!!
She takes the the Magnifying Glass
with her in the bag..so when are you
going to pick me up??(LOL)
As you can see im in good company,with various
flying vehicles,maybe they can take us to the
mountain of laptops and cellphones..(LOL)..
I know this is an hard lesson for you ..
I understand that you cant talk to friends about this
this is very hard for people to understand also and you feel
ashame about it.
Many victims who goes to the authorities for help
they dont get it ,because its very hard to proof things
and the stolen identies makes it also harder to the
police to find the criminals...and that makes also
there is many unreported cases and many victims also..that we
never get to know about...
Also the information on dating sites is very bad ...
The dating sites just do nothing against the scammers
The dating site where I met my scammer..Firstdate.com didnt
even replied my email when i complaigned about the scammer
and they didnt remove him either...so what can you think??
So keep the spirit high and stay safe!!
All regards //Miss Marple//
Hello my new friends! Miss Marples, I am ready to go to the mysterious mountain of computers/cell phones. I would walk if I had to! :) Thank you again for your support, it means so very much.
And to Miss V, thought we lost ya there with your new guy. I hope he treats you like a princess. Funny how we both met him the same time, and he was talking with us, and many more I am sure, at the same time. Wonder how they keep track. Like I said, he sent me a message to someone else, then covered it up quickly, actually before I could even ask. Amazing the minds, or the lack of, that these aholes have. But same exact story, to the last little detail. When I saw your posting I just burst into tears in disbelief, but this site has made me so much stronger, and I am glad that I stumbled upon it . God works in mystereous ways! Thanks again for all your help & support, because without your posting I might have never known! Take care, PT Still would like to see his son's pic, or if you have anymore, that would be great.
anonymous WW from Japan
I wish you a speedy recovery .
007 is rich so he can get a '' nuclear powered helicopter '',
but you know I am so poor .
Then I have found '' A new Zeppelin '' so I have got it !
Please see below !
Now I am coming to Sweden !!
Please look up the sky !
You can look at me !