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Name: Ben Fischer Ridwan


18 M bari street owerri, Immo state 23483 Nigeria
phone #: +234-703-919-6208

asking money on those infos: Dr Mrs Elizabeth Eze
#4 uratta street, ptt Quaters, portharcourt Road, Owerri, Nigeria

Other Comments:
is someone received this photo from a dating site MuslimMarriage?, said he is german, and he is an angineer in roads and bridge in nigeria.
but i think she is a woman from nigeria, because the voice don't match with the man photo, i really fell in love with the guy on this picture and his country (Germany), and i'm sure he is not the real scammer, poor man!, i'm sure he is a victim and i really feel sorry for him and for me, because myself i send photos and now i hope the scammer will not use them to scamm another men.

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2009-12-31, 22:13:11
anonymous from United States  
Jeff Samuel wrote the same lines to me too. I now feel he is a terrorist too. He told me he going to Detroit and then London. His latest IM was that he is in India. He wanted me to pray for him because he needed courage. He has responsibility, he wrote.
2010-01-02, 07:16:47
He sent the same exact lines to me as well!!!!

Yes, this forum helped very much, there were several tip offs though...

First was his location said at the time US verses when he was online and emailed me, they just didn't match up.

Second was his job, the company doesn't check out at all.

I didn't want it to get more serious, until I could cross reference everything he said via the web and bingo!

It was his dumb name... and so I found this place.

Actually this was the first time this has ever happened to me, I am glad it didn't last long at all.
He must be slipping in his game.
He didn't last 2 weeks with me and especially because of this place.

He is a parasite (kind of like a mosquito) of lies.
I don't feel sorry for him at all.

He needs to stop,
he is very, very pathetic...
obviously he can't get a real job like actual men do.

He must look very ugly as well to be doing this... for he is never seen.
And sure enough he is unhandsome on the inside
by the mere fact he does this sort of crap.

Heal and deal girls.

Drop the connection, it is surely a waste of time, money and life!

Best to you all in the New Year (except the loser guy)!!!!!


2010-01-02, 15:32:55   (updated: 2010-01-02, 15:33:39)
anonymous from United States  
Thank you for posting your comment on 01/02/2010!
The only way he will stop is if he is in jail. I am thinking of contacting ABC news to give details about people associated with Jeff Samuel. I have a feeling he is involved in the latest terrorist attack.
I am not in touch with him. Once in while he pops up on my IM. Right now he is not going to contact anyone because he knows police is alert. Last time he IMed me telling that he was arrested in Canada as a con man.
He tells somebody steals his emails and uses them to contact innocent women on his name!
As if I believe his stories! -

He also tells me to remove his pictures from this site and other sites! - SA
2010-01-03, 03:58:19
The fact that he says someone is stealing his e-mails and uses them to contact innocent women on his name, thinking he can still con the women with this new set of lies makes me suspect of his IQ too. He must be very dashed right now to create these pathetic lies!
2010-01-03, 04:31:19
Hey Girls,
let's ALL post every photo we have our 'favorite' guy
(not really) they are probably much much better looking than him anyways!!!!

Also his other oh so original names (emails) etc.
so it can ALL be here for other ladies.

This really seems to be working, really, in helping our other lady friends find out what a loser he is.

I think I've posted all mine.
Anyone have any other juicy emails, photos, stories etc. they are hold out on us?

Do share, as they say, sharing is caring.


Besides the police, this can help other women, so, the more evidence posted the better!

2010-01-03, 11:31:45   (updated: 2010-01-03, 11:33:19)
anonymous from United States  
I have already posted three pictures he gave me. Please see under Jeff O' Samuel.
I will post more emails. - SA from PHL.
I have saved some of his emails in case authorities ever want to get in touch with me to find the entire gang.
----- Original Message -----
From: Jeff Samuel
Sent: Wednesday, September 03, 2008 3:50 PM
Subject: RE: No Delay
Hi Dearie,
Can you save a life? The ball it's in your court now.
I want to hear your voice, Can you give me a call?
Missed you so much.
Hugs and kisses~
My Dearest,
You are a blessing that my entire being is very thankful for. I feel that we were made to love, listen, understand, and work through all times in our lives together and individually
I feel that we have shared more time together than we ever will and I know there are many more special occasions and moments in our lives that will surprise and bring us closer.
I don't care if you feel unsecured and ceases to trust me, think of how fast the feelings we have for each other grew, just as long as you remember that I love you with every aching bone in my body no matter what. That's what gets me through every minute that I'm with out you. And baby, you don't know what I would give to kiss your lips, feel your touch, or even just to see you.
You are my soul mate and nothing, and no one else feels more right than you!! I love you eternally and unconditionally. God's love has answered this prayer I've wanted and been almost too anxious for so long. I miss you more than words can say and my love will reach any distance and fly to be in your dreams and heart each evening that we can not be together. I physically long for you each night and will see you in my dreams until we find ourselves wrapped in the love that grows stronger and deeper each day, into our future together. I believe and have faith in you.
My heart beats very strong for you, I can't really tell.
Hugs and kisses!
The contacts of other con men he gave me to send money to:
1. name: ms onyinye uloaku (she is a 18 year old girl. I have posted her id too)
address: 17 mbari street,
city: owerri
state: imo
country: nigeria
maidian name: amara
fathers name: akurulo uloaku
2. According to him these are immigration officer Mr. Brain's secretaries:
Name: Segun Adegoke
Address : Plot 52,Immigration Qtrs. Onitsha Rd.
Owerri, Imo State. Nigeria 23483
Name: Ebere-Njoku Ugochukwu
Address: Plot 47, Flat 1 Immigration Qtrs. Onitsha Rd.
Owerri, Imo State. Nigeria 23483
3. Alex Smith. His real name is chukwemeka. He tells he is Officer in Nigeria post but he is actually a student in Cyprus.
I am uploading Jeff's picture that he sent me. Now he tells me to remove them.

2010-01-03, 18:22:23
Help for Dating Scam Victims (extract from an article)

Dating scams are different than other types of scams and are particularly ugly and hideous because they aim to steal people's money through abusing their most special feelings. It's important to deal with the anguish and feelings of guilt, shame and being victimized in order to stop the victimization and not create continuous internal victimization later on. The first step is getting out of the victim position, even though it may not seem easy at first. Make a conscious decision to leave the victim position and use the strategies suggested to achieve that, to stop the continuous victimization 'within yourself'. First of all, the only fact of the situation is someone has stolen your emotions or emotions along with your money. Know that the utmost truth of this situation is not your being the victim. The true victim is the scammer. He is the victim of his own sick mind, heart and soul. Know and trust that there is Divine Justice and the Divine will ensure he/she will get the equal damage he/she created for you. Trust that the Divine account book is very precise and you will receive what he/she has stolen from you, maybe from other means, and pray that he/she receives just the right punishment he/she deserves. Your thoughts effect the reality and because you have been wronged, they will be much stronger in effect. This way of thinking will ease your mind and create some degree of peace within you.

The second step is, other than your lost money, you have complete control over the level of emotional victimization you create for yourself now. So make a conscious decision for being compassionate for yourself for, ex. believing the person, being stupid to believe and send money, etc. etc. Know that the most abnormal person in this situation is not you, because you are after love, which is the reason we are here on earth. The abnormal person in this situation is the sick scammer, who has sold his soul to devil, who steals money abusing this divine feeling. Know that you were after love, and you were following your heart, and forgive yourself for the things you blame yourself for. The best thing you can do for yourself is to stop internal victimization.

The third step is using the rule 'every adversity bears an equal or greater benefit'. It will help you step out of the victim position and take a power position. This is a golden rule and if you can appy this rule to this situation, it will empower you throughout your life and this very thing will be a big benefit you have acquired from this situation. It will shift the focus of your mind from negative to positive, and you will feel much better. Use the following exercise: start to make a list, writing down every single benefit this situation brought to your life. Even the very minor ones count. Examples are: 'I learned how not to get scammed again, I helped other women spot the scam very early, I realized I'm after another person's love rather than finding the love within (this is a big one), I learned the golden rule 'every adversity bears an equal or greater benefit', I received help from other women and experienced solidarity between women, I learned how to track originating IP's of e-mails, etc.'. Make the list as long as you can. Squeeze the situation and get every single drop of benefit you can think of.

Being compassionate to yourself for falling into this trap, ask yourself the reasons you have bought into the lies and conning. If you find anything unhealthy in your thought process, forgive yourself and make a conscious decision to heal the root causes within you that have lead up to this experience. This may be the greatest benefit you could gain from this experience.

Don't let yourself being the victim and good luck!

2010-01-04, 14:32:30
anonymous from United States  
This is a very good article! Thank you for posting here.
God bless you! Unknowingly I followed almost all the step.
I no longer feel the loss of money and emotion. Thank you again. You are a God sent.
2010-01-06, 06:29:55
Some other questions he asks:


What would make you the happiest woman you have ever been?

What is something you have always wanted to tell someone very close and dear to you and never had as of yet?

If you could be a piece of an artwork, what type would you be and why?

What do you plan to achieve in the next five years?

What are you most proud of in life?


Some other things he wrote:

Do you like sea foods? Irish are mainly known with sea foods. I enjoy cooking with my partner, You touched my heart with your words, I think you got all it takes to know everything about me, I will love to know your favorite meal, maybe cook for you someday when I come over to your home or invite you over to mine. My job takes me around the world that's why I tend to change a new dimension of business that will keep me close to the family I plan to build. I am considering going into Real Estate Business, what do you think?

What I ask of you now is attention, affection and communication. Don't forget there would be misunderstanding in a relationship but it is left for partners to sort issues out between themselves instead of involving other people and confide in themselves.

I would be the happiest man on earth to find that right woman and settle down with her as early as possible, a woman who will understand what it seems to be in a relationship, be in love and beloved. A woman who is ready to put both heart and soul in a relationship, A woman who understands the value of the four letter word, Love. I am not perfect, I don't expect my partner to be perfect either but I believe if we both put heads together, we will build a strong and perfect home/marriage.

I have always wanted to look my partner/loved one in her eye and tell how much she means to me, how much I love her and how much I want to spend the rest of my life with her in both good and bad time.

If I could be a piece of an artwork, I would be a paint of a dove at a center of a junction to the worlds viewing just to let every human understand what peace means to the soul.

I have plans of settling down with that right woman, change a job that will keep me close to her, set up a family business and a charity based organization to help the less privilege.


The guy on page 3 looks sooo Hot, like a movie star, I owe my buying into this trap to his looks!
2010-01-06, 09:38:33   (updated: 2010-01-06, 10:22:33)
anonymous from United States  
I confirm this is Jeff Samuel's writing style. He wrote exact same things to me.
From this email it is clear that this email is recent. But I confirm again. It is Jeff Samuel. Thanks for sharing. If you wish I can share some more emails.

He first builds the emotional relationship by asking 'What I ask of you now is attention, affection and communication.' Then he will tell about commitment and support. Then he will tell stories to ask money. He is very patient by nature.

Even I did not have money but I took loans for him. I fell in love with his writing. He has very good writing skills. His accent is total Nigerian. He also wrote to me again and again that he is very handsome, caring and rich. I will never regret having him in his life. Very soon he starts writing - 'Hugs and kisses!' He has no problem lieing all the time. He gives a realistic impression. The address he gave me Ireland was confirmed false by Irish post office.

Could you kindly publish his email address? He used this one with me:

I am very thankful to you for that article. More than money it is the emotional investment that hurts us. Jeff is with a large gang of con men. They will pose like officials to extract money.

2010-01-06, 15:53:24
He used he same information on page 3 of this thread when contacting me. Name S. Glen Jefferson and e-mail He was on Worldfriends but his profile is deactivated, probably someone reported him. I posted the e-mails which haven't been posted before, thinking someone might do a Google search by e-mail content. It might be useful for other women if you post more e-mails, in case they search by e-mail content. They do seem to aim soft hearted, compassionate and giving women in order to get what they want. It seems all Nigerians make a living out of scamming, as about 95% of all spam/scam e-mails I receive are from Nigeria. What a pity for a whole country! It's a loser approach from whatever angle you look. Also what a reputation all around the world! The level of lack is sooo pitiful in their mentality and actions.
2010-01-07, 08:03:02
anonymous from United States  
Thank you so much for responding to my request. He wrote the exact same words to me as he did to you and others. I will post more emails so that others are not conned by him. Have you ever spoken to him? I have. He used to call me a lot. He sound Nigerian. When I tell him he does not believe that at all. He says he travelled all over the world so he has mixed accent.
Here are some more emails:

My Dearest,

I am sick and tired of my life.

Life without you is useless, I must confess.

Ever since you lost trust, concern and love for me, I have never been myself, I can't concentrate either to fight for myself.

My advise to you remains, be strong.

Things will be alright with me.
Don't worry about me, Please.
Have a lovely weekend,
Yes, I am in Nigeria but not in Owerri.

I am in Abuja right now.

Call me whatever you like but I will not buy the idea of posting my name on those websites or offering me to someone else, How will you feel if I do the same to you?

Why can't you wait a little more to see me at least even if you don't want me for a partner anymore. You brought me back here, all your nagging and stupidity caused me all this pain I am going through.

I will write later.
Have a lovely day.

No one is perfect, you got your own weakness, I got mine as well.

I took a very wrong decision by going for the project, It has caused us pain but in the other hand I feel it will keep us strong till the rest of our life living together as husband and wife.

The way you talk about sending me, I'm I a piece of paper.......or something that common? My words doesn't mean anything..........Action speaks louder than voice, I will try to make you happy don't argue me please.....

Since they are demanding for 30% as negotiation, Please add more effort.

I am not Nigerian and don't feel I got Nigerian accent.

God with us.
My heart belongs to you.
You know what?

I have been humiliated, I feel so ashamed of myself...........Why are you still calling me names? It's unfair, I have limited time to get this negotiation done, stop this argument and nagging, Please it will not help us, I am not a CON MAN, have it at the back of your mind, If I can lay my hands on my id right now, I will send it to you instead of sending you a scanned copy of it

Please understand our peace is at stake here at least.

We must get this settled today, If you can send the money to Onyi, please let me know, if not, then I will have to take life the way it is and go back to Nigeria.

Thanks for being there for me even at this extend, I have caused you a lot, I just need you to be little more patience so I can make you happy in return once this is over.

My heart belongs to you and beats so strong.
God with us.
Hugs and kisses!
2010-01-07, 08:09:21
anonymous from United States  
My Love,

It has been difficult for us but our love has proven to be true even through the worst of times. Every single day that passes, I thank God for you. I love you more than you could ever imagine. Together we can do anything. Our love is what keeps a smile on my face, knowing that you care and will always be there. I can't imagine where I would be right now without you. I love you! Just remember, please don't go to bed mad at me for putting you through all this pains, don't hate me or lose hope on me, I will make things right but I have a serious task to face and got just few days to accomplish that, I am really confused, I got till 17th of February to settle my problems here or make a decision that will either put me in a good or bad shape. Please don't lose hope on me or feel so bad because I couldn't sort my problems myself because you never know what tomorrow will bring.

My Dearest, I feel so strong about us, You are my certainty, my comfort and hope, without you I would be lost. I know we have our ups and downs but if you'll let me, in the rest of the time we have, I want to make you feel how you deserve, like a queen, like a goddess. Each day I hope I can give just a little of what bliss you give me.

Is your Sister back?
What did you do today?

Wish I can make you relax to have a sound sleep this night.
My regards top everyone that knows about us.
Hugs and kisses!
Can you hear my heart calling you?
****************************Hmmmmm have your rest while I cuddle you to sleep!!! Have a sound sleep my Queen.
2010-01-08, 12:58:23
It seems they have some template mails which they send to many women. Then they adjust the content and maybe write unique e-mails according to the individual case. The way of their speaking of those virtues (love, trust, honesty, keeping promises, heart, etc. etc.) of which they are so desparately lacking is really unbelievable. Can you see the how sick they are? They know the virtues of value, they speak of them so masterfully, so it means what human beings are made of. Yet they violate them in such a scary way, they must be in hell deeply. I know not a single person who can be in peace with himself, who can be happy, while doing these things. They are really, really pitiful and very pathetic.
I never talked on the phone with this scammer, because the whole thing looked fishy and when he asked to contact by phone I didn't want it and did a Google search. I did get a lot of e-mails from scammers, but this one used a very dazzling picture, I guess I missed the point there falling for the looks rather than the inside.
2010-01-08, 18:00:55
anonymous from United States  
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